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Take small steps every day to get closer to your goal…
Image Belinda Olsen
Take small steps every day to get closer to your goal…
Some of the lovely items I’m coveting this week…
#1. These gorgeous edgy necklaces…
#2. Copper and brass boxes from Muhs Home.
#4. Love, love, love these… from Pour Reporter.
#5. These shoes are so elegant and feminine. Nearly too beautiful to wear… nearly…
#6. A twist on the traditional ‘blue jeans’ – great summer look
What’s on your wish list?
Once we have decided to make a change in our life or to set a new goal, or like me set a whole bunch of new goals (see my 30 before 30) the initial motivation and drive is wonderful. However how do we maintain this when life happens – daily priorities and events can knock us off course and regaining that motivation is easier said than done.
Stay on track…
#1. Assess your progress
Whatever your goal is from running a race to planning a dream holiday or losing some weight, stop and ask yourself how much progress you have made/ will you reach your target within the time scale you set yourself? Can you run as far or for as long as you should be able to at this stage in your training plan? Have you saved the money for your holiday you had planned to?
#2. Don’t berate yourself
Remember you are only human, and life happens, no-one is perfect. You may have got sidetracked but that doesn’t mean you are an awful person who is doomed never to achieve their goals and dreams. Give yourself a break. (just not too much!)
#3. Be patient and mindful
The tendency when things don’t go quite as planned, is to throw the towel in and tell yourself ‘sure I’ve mucked it up now, I may as well eat/do whatever I want now – I’ll start again on Monday‘ This is generally a knee-jerk reaction and one that I’m sure we have all had. Think however – what would you say to your friend? I would say something along the lines of – don’t be so sore on yourself, think of the progress you have been making and all the effort you have put in, this is only a bump in the road don’t let it derail you from your course – you are stronger than that and the achievement is going to be worthwhile.
Sometimes when we are knocked we allow ourselves to be all too quickly turned around and heading down the wrong path. The result of this is generally – some distance down this path we realise this is not the way we want to go and turn around with extra distance to ‘re-travel’. The key when we initially stumble is to ‘stop and think’. Be mindful of what we are saying to ourselves and what we are allowing ourselves to automatically do. Ask yourself what you really want before you head off in wrong direction again.
#4. Learn from experiences
So you stumbled – what happened, why did it happen, how can you learn from it? – so next time it happens you are better equipped to deal with it. If you keep a journal these thoughts and feelings should be easily identifiable, however I find that when things go off track generally everything goes off track – journal writing included. It is such a worthwhile exercise however, and can help in keeping you mindful of your actions and your eye ‘on the ball’.
#5. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep going!
We all know it takes hard work, determination and commitment to make changes and reach goals. The important thing is to get back up – no matter how many times you fall.
How do you maintain focus?
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How to find your element
#1. Be prepared
Do you know what makes you tick? What motivates you? What your natural strengths are? What environment you thrive in? Are you a people person or do you prefer to work alone? Brainstorm all the things you enjoy doing (leave nothing out, even the things you think might be silly) Try this free personality test for fun and give you an insight into some of your traits.
Aim to do something new every week, to open up your mind and maximise your exposure to new experiences, people and see what you learn about yourself!
#4. Allocate time
#5. Get Motivated
#6. Pay attention to detail
#7. Be true to yourself
Take a small step every day that takes you closer to your dream career. Do not remain static. In order to gain momentum we must move.
What is a life that fails to reach its full potential? Do not waste the wonderful life you have been given. You owe it to yourself to be the best you can be. Always remember your motivation.
So its a month since I made a pact with myself to change my lifestyle for the better. So far I have updated you on my journey once. You can read that post here.
There has been a shift in my mental attitude and that has been the biggest change for me. I am choosing to focus on how I am feeling rather than how I look or how much I weigh. (Don’t get me wrong I am keeping tabs on the scales and so far I have lost 7 pounds reducing my BMI from 29.4 to 27.4 ) these things are still really important to monitor progress, but the point is they are not the be-all-and-end-all to your progress. The scales don’t know how much effort you are putting in, whether you are eating right and how you feel. We shouldn’t give them so much power over us.
Tips to stay focussed on your journey
#1. Focus on the intrinsic motivators rather than extrinsic.
How you feel rather than what you weigh…
#2. Be your own best friend
You wouldn’t dream of telling a friend who has had a bad day, or eaten something ‘wrong’ that she is useless, weak and doomed to be fat forever! You would tell her not to worry, a lifestyle change doesn’t happen in a day, we are all human, no-one is perfect and take it as an opportunity to learn and move on in knowledge that the next time she will know how to handle the situation she found herself in today. Cut the self-abuse. Sometimes we are our own worst enemies.
#3. Visualise your goals
It is important to have something to work towards and remind us why we are making a change. For me I put together a set of images and mantras from Pinterest and put it as a screensaver to remind me of my path.
Ok so I said before not to get worked up by the scales, we still need to use them, just give them less of an importance. Set up a spreadsheet with your goals, interim goals and monitor your progress. Take your measurements and BMI. On days when you haven’t lost you can always check your measurements – just because you haven’t lost pounds doesn’t mean you haven’t toned up. Monitoring applies to your emotions also. Keep a journal. Highlight positives in your feelings and in your day.
Reward yourself for the positives and don’t dwell on the negatives. Set yourself mini-goals and when you reach them mark it somehow, and give yourself the praise you deserve for all your hard work and effort. Making changes isn’t easy and you should acknowledge that.
How do you create a new habit?
Some of the pieces I’m craving at the moment…
#1. Maxi skirt in this lovely caramel colour
#2. Marni spotty lingerie
#3. Brightly coloured clutch. Loving this whole combination, the shirt, sunnies, necklace, knotted belt and sunkissed skin!
#5. Amazing LBD
#6. Strappy black sandals
#7. Drop waist dresses and killer pins
#8. Effortless chic
#9. Black leather shorts.
#10. Leopard print clutch.
What’s on your style wish list?
Just a few of the books I am reading this month…
Makeup your mind:Express Yourself by Francois Nars
Make-up your mind by Francois Nars. This is a gorgeous book. Inside a lovely hard plastic casing, the book itself is ring bound and spilt into three parts play, perfect and polish. The looks are made on all different face shapes, skin types, eyes. There is a photo of before and after (large scale and both at same size) and a really great clear plastic overlay noting what make-up he has used and marking where. This is a great reference book for every occasion and for those days we feel like a change! Love it!
Parisian Chic by Ines de la Fressange and Sophie Gachet
I haven’t started this yet but I am super excited to get stuck in! Look forward to a review on here shortly!
Secrets of Stylists by Sasha Charnin Morrison
Style Journal by Moleskine
Another item to add to my To-Do List, I couldn’t resist this journal, I am a total stationary junkie! I must have it in order to become fully organised in my wardrobe… (ok maybe I could survive without it, but it makes it all a bit more fun!) It has sections for outfits, favourite shops, downloadable fashion templates, wish lists, gift lists…
I will keep you updated as I fill mine out… there may be a wardrobe ‘edit’ ahead!
What books are you reading this month?
Every once in a while it is important to take time out from our busy lives. To reassess where we are and where we want to be. Are we on the right track? And if not how do we get onto it?
No matter how far down the wrong road we go it is never to late to turn
#3. You will know how serious and motivated you are to make the necessary changes by your actions. Remember actions speak louder than words.
#4. Make sure you consider all aspects of your life and how they impact on your happiness, satisfaction and goals.
#5. Remember always be true to yourself. You are the person that has to live YOUR life and be happy with the decisions you make. Don’t let others talk you out of your dreams just because they gave up on theirs.
#6. Have fun & remember to be thankful of all the blessings in your life….
Has anyone made any life changes recently?
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I am currently having lots of fun designing my new ‘study’ space. I am moving into my new house in just a couple of weeks time and I need to get this space sorted asap. I can’t function properly without my computer, books and all my stationary organised and in order! My design criteria for the space includes; calm, ambient, comfortable surroundings that are inspirational but above all it has to be a real functional working space…
#1. Good sized desk. I’m earmarking this oak desk from John Lewis. Alot of designers recommend glass top desks for aesthetic reasons but I find glass topped surfaces can be extremely noisy and annoying.
#2. A great angle poised lamp, like this one from heals
#3. A comfy chair (as well as the office chair!) to sit back and look over work, such as this one from notonthehighstreet at £763
#4. Some fab stationary accessories
both available from not on the high street, vintage style filing tray costs £62 and Pencil Sharpener £17.49
#5.Some lovely pictures, this one is very apt!
It is from Lollipop designs and costs £49, available at my favourite online store of the moment - not on the high street!
Share your favourite home office ideas!